Keeping Perspective On Your Big Day
Planning for your wedding can be a tedious and tiring process. Similar to running a marathon, you have to realize that you’re in it for the long haul. You must start months ahead of the main event, pace yourself properly and make sure to remain hydrated at all times.
Although planning a wedding is not as physically painful (for the most part) as training for a marathon, it can be an exhausting and mentally draining process. It is common knowledge that there are a number of essential details that must seamlessly come together to make it all worth it in the end. From picking the flowers, invitations, colour combinations to deciding on your venue, wedding dress and hairstyle, there are so many things to think about and so many things to do. There never seems to be enough time to do it all.
Caught up in the minutia, many brides consider these details to be their primary concern and forget that the essence of a great wedding is in the little things that brides usually don’t take note of in their to-do lists.
Soak Up The Pride In Your Parents’ Eyes. You may or may not have thought of your wedding since you were little, but you can be sure that your parents have. Revel in the joy on your parents’ faces as they see you marry the man with whom you have chosen to spend the rest of your life. Don’t think that you’re the only one who is overwhelmed. Remember, your parents can be overcome by as many feelings of mixed emotion and stress as you, if not more, so have patience. Include them in your wedding every step of the way because let’s face it, without them you wouldn’t be here today.
Well Rested + Well Fed = Happy Bride. During the process of planning your wedding, make sure to keep taking time out for yourself. It might feel unnecessary and self indulgent at first, but a few of hours of unadulterated “you-time” will do you a world of good–whether its long drives, mani-pedis with a friend (no wedding talk), a game of tennis, walks down the beach or volunteering at the animal shelter. Do whatever works for you to unwind and help block out all that wedding noise that has been cluttering your brain. Trust me, you will emerge a saner person and a better bride. Not only will you enjoy your wedding that much more, you will look and feel better for having taken care of yourself first. My personal recommendation: massages to get some of those wedding-induced stress knots out of your muscles.
Family & Friends Come First. Weddings place a lot of undue pressure on everyone involved. As the bride, rather than expect everyone to succumb to your wishes, try to look past the pettiness and use your wedding as an opportunity tell your loved ones how much you appreciate them. These are the people who have (un)waveringly supported you through the shaadi dramas and traumas alike. Face it, without these key loved ones, you would be lost. This is the perfect time to acknowledge just how much they mean to you.
Take Part in Your Wedding (& Wear Comfortable Shoes). While busy arranging for this, deciding on that and arguing about the other, the bride and groom are often the last people to enjoy their own wedding. Remember that this is your wedding, not a military zone. Of course there are things that will go wrong, but more often than not, you are the only one who will even notice. The more seriously you take your wedding, the less chances you have of actually enjoying it. This is supposed to be the happiest day of your life, not something you were glad you survived. And so wear comfortable shoes.
This Is Just The Beginning. Your wedding is just the initiation ceremony to the actual event which is your marriage. Far too many people put more emphasis on the event than they do on the reason behind the event. It’s the beginning of your life together and you will survive flowers, dresses, crazy relatives, drama, logistics and financial pressures. All you have to do is remember that this wedding is a celebration of your future together.
As hard as it is not to sweat the small stuff, trust me, it’s much healthier to let go of some of the minor details and focus instead on these seemingly little things that will make all the difference on your Big Day. So take a break, get your head out of the wedding catalogues, crawl out from under that pile of satin and zardozi and enjoy your wedding. (Hopefully) it’s the only one you’ll have!